Month: November 2007

How many times have you really though of “What is God” by yourself?

Maybe you tried many times but you were afraid then you remembered what others tell you about God.

Let me ask you, do YOU know God by yourself? Or you know God through what others told you? Be that your holy books, teachers or schools?

You have to make sure that you can only know about something when you experience it, not when you read or were told about it.

For some, God is the almighty creator, who loves us all and takes care of us, answering all our prayers.

For others, God is not one, but a group of intelligent beings (you can name them aliens) that created us through biological engineering and through crafting our DNAs delicately.

As long as we follow what others say about God, we will always have confusion, fear and instability and doubt in our mind.

So, what is God?

Who said that geometry is for scientists only? 🙂

Have you ever heard of Love Triangle or Love Rectangle for example?

A love triangle is a romantic relationship involving three people, where each person is involved with another in a way.
It can be two people loving the third, while the two hate each other. For example a girl had to choose between two guys, one who is so nice with good a character, while the other guy is a wild and outlaw sort of character that is daring and adventurous.
It can also be where person A loves person B and person B loves person C, however transitivity does not apply (as it applies in mathematics), meaning person C cannot love person A or else we would have homosexual relationship! 😛
In general love triangles are not stable relationships and can lead to murder or suicide when unresolved conflicts arise in this relationship.

Now there is what is called “Love Rectangle”, it is when four people are involved in a relationship. It can ben two girls in love with two different men, but then later on, they happen to swap boyfriends and a new relationship get formed.

And last but not least, it is worthwhile reading about the “Triangular Theory of Love” at Wikipedia.

See also:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_triangle
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory

I have long felt compelled to talk about the quality and kind of love that we, lay people, have experienced.

The people in a relationship love

This can be a boyfriend/girlfriend, this can be a love affair, something of that sort.
Usually this sort of love is governed by fear of losing the lover and mostly by jealousy.
We think that if our lover loves another person then we will miss our share.
In that relationship, we see love as a divisible entity, as if when consumed somewhere else we will feel some lack.
I would not call this as love, because this love is tainted with fear and with so many conditions and carefulness.
We try to hold our love and feelings and only share it when the right person comes or if our lover behaves.

Brotherly or Sisterly Love

This love is still conditional and only shared with our “brothers” or “sisters”. We only love those who are good with us. This sort of love has less selfishness to it, and more true love and a sense of sacrifice and genuine will to help the others within our circle.

Parental Love

Parental love is the kind of love that a mother or father share with their children.
This love is governed by self-sacrifice, by protection and by care and gentleness.

Parents often forget themselves and only focus on their children.

Unconditional Love

It is the “unspoken” love. We rarely have the chance to experience what this love is.
We cannot image that we could love people and share our love while there will still be plenty of love for everyone.

This love does not know color, selfishness, desire or any sort of interest. This love is invading, it goes to all the people that we see without any discrimination.

That sort of love has been practiced by saints, sages and masters of old times and contemporary times.

Conclusion

There are many sorts of love relationships, and it is up to us to animate this love with selfishness or with selflessness. May all the sages inspire you so that you become a channel of unlimited and unconditional love.

It is said that one can never appreciate the gifts that God gave to him unless one loses them.
It is also said that one should look into other’s miseries and see how much God has been grateful to him in comparison to others.

In that respect, one find himself many times plunged into pleasure seeking (in all sorts) on the expenses of the other(s), doing the impossible to get what one wants and never considering the other(s).

It is our selfishness that drives us to misery,
by wanting more than by giving,
by desiring more than sacrificing,
by greediness more than generosity,
by taking care of ourselves more than look out for the others,

Sometimes you realize…Sometimes you get awakened and you see yourself how much you want, you need, you you you you, and at that moment you remember that it is not all about YOU. It is at that moment that one should stop and change his heart. It is at that moment that one should feel a sense of gratitude towards his creator who put him in situations that helps him realize.

May the moments of realization be many in your lifes, and may you be accompanied by the light, wisdom and acceptance of others, dear Reader.